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HOW TO STOP BEING INSECURE AND BUILD SELF-ESTEEM

It's normal to have days when you feel like you can't do anything right. However, constantly feeling insecure about yourself can have a negative impact on every aspect of your life, from your physical health and emotional well-being to how well you perform at work. Not feeling good enough can be especially dangerous in romantic relationships because it makes you more prone to feelings of anxiety and jealousy. And it isn't just about you. According to research, your self-esteem has an impact on both your and your partner's relationship satisfaction.


The good news is that there are methods for increasing your self-esteem. While it will not happen overnight, with the right strategies and mindset, you can take steps toward changing your self-image.

· Affirm your own value Take stock of everything you're doing well. Most likely, your self-perception does not take into account the hundreds of positive micro-decisions we make on a daily basis. Remembering how you assisted a neighbor with their groceries or your boss during an important meeting can help you focus on your contributions rather than your flaws.

· Take care of your needs first If you're constantly taking care of everyone else's needs while neglecting your own, you're not valuing yourself enough. Including more self-care in your daily routine can help you combat negative thoughts and boost your self-esteem.

· Challenge negative thoughts


After tripping or making a mistake, it's tempting to be harsh on ourselves. However, berating oneself for not getting that huge promotion or forgetting to make an essential phone call keeps you trapped in a cycle of humiliation and self-loathing.

Some of the ways to improve negative thoughts: o Forgive yourself and recognize that these are isolated incidents that do not define you as a person.

o Make a list of your negative ideas so you can take a step back and notice them. o Refocus on the positive aspects of the experience and what you've learnt from it.


What have you learned from this that will help you produce a better outcome in the future?

· Spend time with people who loves you


There’s nothing like surrounding yourself with loving, supportive people to build up your confidence and make you feel accepted for who you are.

· Reflect on the good When you've achieved a significant win at work, celebrate it and hype yourself up. Even if it sounds strange at first, being proud of what you accomplish can boost your self- esteem significantly.

· Do things that bring you joy Prioritize spending free time doing things that bring you joy and happiness, whether it’s curling up with a book or cooking a good meal from scratch.

· Focus on baby steps Overcoming insecurity and building up your self-esteem don’t happen overnight. Try tobe kind to yourself during this process and don’t get discouraged if things aren’t improving as fast as you’d like them too. · Work with a therapist


Speaking with a qualified therapist can help you explore your fears and insecurities by understanding where they come from. They can also help you develop new tools for navigating situations that zap your confidence.


Insecurity affects everyone at some point, but if it goes unchecked, it may have a significant influence on your daily life. Building self-esteem isn't always simple or quick, but the ultimate effect is well worth the effort. If you feel like you could use some extra help, don't be afraid to ask for it. Seen this way, insecurity is neither a flaw nor a drive. It is a by-product of a workplace culture in which individualism is rampant, relationships are instrumental, and bias goes unquestioned. The answer to it cannot be simply to set better boundaries. To accept and overcome insecurity, we rather need to stop caring too much about each other and start to care more for each other, and for the place we work in.

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